How to Talk About Yourself

I  believe you should be sharing more of YOU. But, there is just one guideline to maximize your resilience, spiritual growth and life aptitude — only talk about the events, conversations and feelings about what is beneficial, uplifting and life-affirming. Or more basically, stop the complaining.

Life is difficult, perhaps not fair even. Everyone faces hardship, loss and pain. The more you talk about your subjectively negative experiences, the more you enforce that reality. Imagine that you stubbed your toe one morning, and with every casual human interaction you retell the story about the pain of your toe. Your foot will experience agony all day, and so will your heart because you are focused on that negative experience. Equally plausible is that you share about the coffee you drink, it’s subtle notes and how the excitement of your taste buds helps wake you up in the morning. This day, then, becomes a magical world full of delight.

There are 86,400 seconds (let’s say moments) each day, but you can’t remember or talk about all of it. You have a choice in what you share (that means contribute to our collective life experience). Love is the answer! Pass it on!